This quote really applies to Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, sometimes we wait for the right feeling to happen in order to make changes, CBT looks at making changes in order to create the right feeling, taking action now rather than waiting, this change can often be useful starting point in therapy.
If you need to talk to somebody for help and support immediately, listed below are some useful numbers for services you may wish to approach:
Tel: 116 123 (24 hours, free to call in UK and Ireland)
Confidential, non-judgmental emotional support for people experiencing feelings of distress or despair, including those that could lead to suicide.
Tel: 0133 123 3393 (9am-6pm Monday to Friday)
The Infoline gives information on types of mental distress.
Rethink Mental Illness Advice Line
Tel: 0300 5000927 (10am-2pm Monday to Friday)
Provides expert advice and information to people with mental health problems and those who care for them.
Tel: 0300 304 7000 (6pm-11pm)
A national mental health helpline providing information and support to people with mental health problems and those who support them.
Tel: 0808 808 4994 (11am-11pm, free to call)
Provides judgement-free information and support to young people aged 13-25 on a range of issues including mental health problems.
Tel: 0800 1111
A private and confidential service for children and young people up to the age of nineteen.
A supportive online community where you can be yourself. Run by Mind.
Below is a hyperlink to an interesting article about what makes a good therapist. It provides information about the skills and attributes to look out for and useful questions to consider in the initial stages of your search.
Whilst I am always happy to answer any questions you may have, I appreciate I might not be the right therapist for you, knowing this is part of the process will hopefully keep you searching for the right person to help.
The above hyperlink takes you to a useful article to read if you would like to know more about counselling and the different types of therapy that are available. Working out what type of therapy may be suitable for you can be difficult therefore doing some background reading may help you work this out. All therapists/counsellors are aware of this therefore speaking to a professional and asking their opinion can also be a good starting point.
A client drew the above art work for me, it depicts Carl Jung, who was a pioneer of modern psychiatry and a philosopher, it also came with a quote on the back that meant something personal to the client and was the inspiration for the drawing itself:
No tree, it is said,
can grow to heaven
unless it’s roots reach down to hell
A quote of C. Jung’s that I particularly like is:
Everything that irritates us about others
can lead us to an understanding of ourselves
Something I have to remind myself on a regular basis!
I came across the above quote on Twitter yesterday, it reminded me that the show, which first aired in 1966, was the first programme to pioneer inclusivity and connectedness with others at a time when other programmes were mainstream and trying to fit within the very small viewpoint of what was considered “normal”.
As times slowly change, for me delighting in difference is to consider and accept ourselves as unique and understand that working towards gaining acceptance of this is often more fulfilling than striving for the unachievable and unnecessary “normal”. It is useful to remind ourselves that the world would be a far less interesting place if we were all the same!
I recently bought a book called “The things you can see only when you slow down” by Haemin Sunim. It’s a collection of quotes and ideas written by a Zen Buddhist teacher and writer from South Korea. The book also has artwork by Youngcheol Lee which really complements the writing. The book has chapters on rest, mindfulness, passion, relationships, love, life, the future and spirituality. It’s well worth a look if you are looking for a bit of inspiration in terms of how to calm a busy mind!
Sometimes life throws us a curveball for no reason that we can fathom.
But do not despair.
We are not alone. We can persevere.
This too shall pass, like the heat of summer.
The 4th-20th May was Mental Health Awareness Week and this year the focus was on stress, looking at what we can do to manage and reduce stress in our lives and featured some recommendations for the government in creating a stress-free UK.
Want to know more about CBT and how it can help? The BABCP have a useful article on their website explaining CBT, how it works and how it can help.